The Bible requires that a husband love his wife. I have heard my husband say to men… “The Bible never said you have to marry the woman you love, but it does say you have to love the woman you marry.” All the women say “Amen”.

 In Ephesians 5:33 God commanded wives to respect their husbands. I don’t think a woman would marry a man that she doesn’t respect, but the truth of the matter is that sometimes a wife can lose respect for her husband and loss of respect leads to a loss of love. A woman’s greatest need is security, but a man’s greatest need is respect.

Women, we can make or break our husbands self esteem depending on our level of respect for them. Be careful what you say about your husband and how you say it. Don’t have a disrespectful attitude! I believe that disrespecting our husband can bring defeat into our marriage and it will shut the door of God’s blessing in our own lives.

If you have shown disrespect for your husband, confess it. Ask God to help you dismantle the barrier over your emotions that keep you from having unconditional love and respect for him. Ask God to tear down the wall of hardness around your heart and show you how to respect him. If you show respect, he will show love!

Praying for your husband will allow you to see his potential for greatness, rather than his flaws. It will enable you to say something positive that will encourage, build up, give life and make your marriage stronger. Love grows if you focus on the positive. When you have God’s heart for your husband, you will be able to see him through new eyes.

Unless a wife wants to lose her position as queen of her husband’s heart, or hurt her family and friends, she must not humiliate (dis-respect) her husband.

Let’s be Proverbs 31 wives…She takes good care of her home. She is wise in her spending and investing. She keeps herself healthy and dresses attractively. She is giving. She conscientiously prepares for the future. She contributes to her husband’s good reputation. She is strong and solid. She is honorable. She speaks wisely and kindly. She does not sit around doing nothing but carefully watches what goes on in her home. Her children and her husband praise her!